Trust is a vital part of healthy marriages and the willingness to openly share the good, along with the bad. You may be perfectly fine with your spouse placing the occasion bet at work in a hockey pool or spending time at a casino every so often to play some poker. But, you may notice your spouse is spending less time at home with you, they could start making up excuses, like they had to work late, or they were just out with some co-workers for a few rounds to celebrate a co-worker’s birthday.
The extent of the lies a person with a gambling addiction tells, depends upon whether they are actually winning. When they are winning, then the lies may not seem that unbelievable or they could actually even tell you the truth that they were out gambling. However, when they start losing and racking up gambling debts that is when the lies start to become more frequent and prevalent since they will not want to tell you they just lost several thousands of dollars.
Furthermore, you could notice unusual activity on your credit cards or large withdrawals from your joint bank accounts. Initially, your spouse might tell you they lent money to a close friend or relative and figured you would be okay with it. Eventually, however, the money and their luck will run out where you could find out, so they might turn to apply for new credit cards, taking out signature loans, or even start borrowing money from friends and relatives in order to cover up their addiction.
At some point, you will find out. You might be on the phone with a close friend and they ask when to expect a payment for the money they lent you. You could be at the checkout line at a store and be told your credit card was declined. No matter how you find out, once you do, it needs to be confronted.
Your spouse could be willing to seek help for their gambling addiction and make a serious effort at saving your marriage. They might tell you they want to get better, but are just telling another lie to prevent you from filing for divorce, too.
Regardless, it is in your best interest to contact an experienced Toronto divorce lawyer to discuss your situation and determine the most appropriate course of action. In some cases, even though you did not incur the gambling debt, you might be required to pay at least half of the debt during a divorce.
The above content is presented for reference purposes and is not actual legal advice. Please feel free to contact Kain & Ball Family Law Lawyers in Toronto today at 647-499-4888 to schedule a consultation appointment to discuss your legal rights and options in regards to your spouse’s gambling addiction.